Taapsi and Mark, on your 3rd Wedding Anniversary !

On your third wedding anniversary, I wish you and Mark, a lifetime of joyous moments and memories that you both can treasure forever!

It has been my great joy to watch you grow from a young girl into a gorgeous and marvelous woman. And today on your anniversary, I wish you both a life full of wonderful experiences that are wrapped in love.

That was a special day when you were born. I have watched you step by step on your journey, from your first clumsy steps as a bubbly baby to the alluring young bride walking down the aisle and into the arms of your love. I am overwhelmed by  your accomplishments followed by successes. I wish you and Mark many more adventurous walks together, joined arm in arm in love for eternity.

Snowfall may be distressing, but then comes the spring. Summers may be hot and humid but then you see the radiance of colors in the fall. At times life will be dingy and drab but then you have to have the perseverance to see it sparkle and radiate. I am confident that together you  both will confront the challenges that will come your way . Mark, the more I got to know you, your quintessential qualities got to be more highlighted. I am so glad to have you as my son in law.

“Marriage is that relation between man and woman in which the Independence is equal, the Dependence mutual and the Obligation reciprocal”.

You both are fortunate to have each other as your lifetime partners.

तापसी, तुम फ़िर उसी अदा से अंगड़ाईयाँ लेकर हँस दो ,

मार्क को पलट कर याद आएगा गुज़रा हुआ ज़माना ॥ 

New exposure/ Newer experiences !

My first time ever ,also happened as soon as me and my kids

parted company.
My connecting flight between the two islands taking me to Toronto got delayed. Can't say whether it was the lazy eyes of the Tobago islanders, or their casual approach (I don't see any negativity in them, with their ever winkle smile) that I reached Trinidad in the middle of night ,only to know that my next flight was 12 hrs later.
Trinidadian camaraderie made sure, I am put up in a hotel close by the airport , sensitively pampering me, as they realized that I was stuck in their country due to their laxity.....no,no... oversight ,a small error.
Awaiting my onward flight to Toronto , with a ciao to my son Aakarsh Ramchandani (already at his desk in New York), and daughter Taapsi Ramchandani( on her research field work in Trinidad).
Islanders of this T&T country, despite all this, I am not chickening out
 

Just listening to BBC that Delta Airlines of US has been grounded due to operational problems, then for my Caribbean Airlines ,this was a speck in the ocean.
Neelam Ramchandani will return with her complete family !

Complexities and Simplifications

Being a singleton for a decade has not been an easy ride.

At times I felt like a sadcase, then an utter fool with a feel that I am getting used by myself.

My numero uno   personality was like vanishing from sight.

Then came a brainy equation wrong*wrong = right . But then I was doing the right things trying to sort out my perplexed life?

Life was quiet ,  yet  pleasant and then was this influx as if everything was happening all at once.

I don’t believe in pretence, so I knew I had to lift my ship’s sails before it sank.

I had to muster that strength to believe that everything will be alright.

So I decided to change my life by changing my thinking that I am a wonderful, capable being able to discharge my responsibilities .

I believed that tomorrow would be another day and I would have a tireless temper to simplify my life by reducing my scales  ,  yet keeping my comfort zones and eliminating the complexities.

Now my equation had changed to maximum output with optimal effort.

Resolution 2016--- Decisive and Positive thinking !

I realized that when my inner faculties are robust and cohesive, I let go of those ludicrous thoughts , don’t act on those which are deceptive and I switch my mind’s platform to rest only on the beneficial and the salubrious ones.

Welcome 2016 !

Had read somewhere that our body has reserve cells that will replace or heal anything that our attention is focussed on and so a negative belief can hurt or kill as much as positive emotions can heal and revive. “ Inarguably , so easily written than done.”

Now, I am one who has turned a HEN , meaning Happy Empty Nester who has taken this new freedom, without any more dabbas to be packed or those pickup and drops to the crèche with routine follow ups on my kids homework.

I took this new avatar as a rite of passage, one which enabled me to follow my passions which had been involuntarily blocked for a while.

I take solace from the fact that we have social media now, the Hangouts , the Skype and various other medium to communicate with my loved ones. We all know that nothing helps fill vacuum like the sliding chair outraging on Facebook or watching a belligerent Saas arguing with her Bahu on popular soaps.

I get a hint of my existential life when I get trapped beneath the layers of self inflicted over sized emotions and then my whole system works in a tangent. It is then that the words ‘positivity’ gives me some perspective and my indomitable human spirit triumphs to ease out that feeling of depletedness.

Life, it seems does not follow the path of our desires and strategies as much as that of our intentions and beliefs. To know and and accept what I desire of 2016 , attracts the same reality in me. Today I say ”I have to just be myself.”

I have to let go.